We wanted to share a list of topics we’ve discussed during our courtship, and we feel this was one of the best things we’ve done so far to strengthen our relationship. We had some very good discussions and learned a lot about each other’s convictions. As other things came up we’d always discuss them and viewed this list as a way to get to know each other better rather than as a checklist. To us, this list isn’t about making sure someone “fits all the boxes,” it was about getting to know each other better and our views on matters important to us. Our hope is that you can draw something from this list that will help or encourage you!
~Luke & Jordan
~worship style/church preference (what kind of music in church, what
kind of church, etc.)
~family integrated church
~child raising (risk-taking, protectiveness, disciplining, treating
~personal risk-taking (dangerous things)
~Communion (style? how often? can children take it? etc.)
~number of children
~unswerving issues (is there something you or I absolutely can/cannot
~mission trips/youth camps
Later on, we added more about child raising…
~Would you teach school differently to boys/girls?
~Discipline (teaching “no,” letting him/her have their own way, spanking, etc.)
~Teaching them to be gentlemen/ladies
~Types of books we’d let them read